I LIKE YOUR STORY OF A C-D THANK YOU FOR SHARING [YES, I AM THE GUY THAT HAS BEEN WAITING FOR YOU TO SEND YOUR SEASON HOUSE STORT;

My wife (of three years) used to support my crossdressing by buying me all sorts of clothes and other stuff - she now sees the "error of her ways" and doesn't like me doing it - what she doesn't like is my wearing kinky stuff such as french maids outfits (originally she bought me this) or white PVC mini's / dresses (which I think look/feel great on me) - she may consider more conventional clothing - I am trying to understand her change in attitude towards me - but am having problems - any advice welcome

Your essay was as non-judgmental as it should be.  I see nothing in it that should upset anyone.  I'm no fan of L. Ron Hubbard, but so what.

The more I interact with the TG community, the more I realize how remarkably segmented it is.

I believe there are people who suffered trauma and came out of it with an obsession to cross dress.  I also believe there are those who were born with a female spirit in a male body.  I don't think behavioralists eliminate all other alternative theories.

Reading the comments to TG stories illuminates the vast differences among cross dressers.  My stories are written directly to those who are cross dressers due to a need to satisfy an inner urge to dress as a female . . . not to be a female.  Those who read my stories, that are not true transvestites, find them dull.  The true transvestite would read soup can labels for hours on end, if the labels had anything to do with being a transvestite.  We have a radar for that sort of thing.

We are a very diverse group who can hardly understand each other, yet expect the world to be tolerant and compassionate.

Your story points out the need for you to have had the love of your wife and the compassion of many others.  You stay with the community to bring that love and understanding to others.  That makes you very different.

I, for one, think you are wonderful for sharing.

Love,

Jill

I am from the Chicago area and went to transformations once.  It really is one of the few places there for a CD makeover, and they are very friendly and non-judgemental.  That said...

I can see how someone could lose the desire to crossdress.  Once you lose the causes behind it, it is less of an obsession.  I have personally come to terms with it in my life, and I have lost some of the obsessive urge.  However, I don't think the occasional compulsion will ever be gone for me because there is an element of sensuality that has nothing to do with the root causes of the behavior.

I don't think the story should offend anyone.  There are different types of transgendered individuals.  Lisa was obviously a habitual cross-dresser due to trauma.  This type probably CAN be cured of their obsession.  Other cross-dressers have different reasons and probably CANNOT be cured of those reasons.  Still others are not so much cross-dressers, but transgendered males.  Transgendered males have a much more deep-down gender identity issue that is with them from childhood, and again, this can not be cured except through gender reassignment.  

There is room for all of these individuals in our community, and I support them all in whichever direction they go.

I suspect you may catch a lot of heat from others for what you wrote here, but certainly not from me.

You hit on two "hot button" issues that may get you flooded with some hostile mail.  1) Dianetics and 2) You dared to question the dogma that "nobody ever stops needing to crossdress."

I'll leave the L. Ron Hubbard stuff for others to discuss, as I am more interested in the second point.

As a Christian, I struggled for years with fears that my crossdressing might somehow go against my beliefs.  I'm sure I'm not alone in that.

Even after coming to terms with that issue, I still struggled with the fact that being a crossdresser demands that you do one of three things: 1. Find a wife/partner who accepts it (and learn to live with how this kink changes the relationship), 2. Lie to your wife/partner about it, or 3. Live alone.

Your story suggest that there is a fourth option: get over the compulsion to crossdress.  I mean, if dressing up in women's clothing stops being an obsession (or even a strong fettish), than giving it up for the sake of a marriage becomes no big deal.  Lots of guys give up hobbies when they get married.

While I'm sure many here will attack your whole story, saying that you must be fooling yourself about no longer wanting to dress and accusing you of spreading dangerous misinformation...  I find that your tale gives me hope.

So, I guess what I'm trying to say is thank you for writing it.